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Divorced And Cheated Out Of The Family Finances - How Smart Divorce Lawyers Are Ruining Women

Divorce Doctor — Thu, 08 Jun 2006 02:45:09 +0000

Lawyers quite often boast of how there is plenty of money to be made from divorce cases. You can be sure that this is no idle lawyer talk, especially when you consider the fact that more and more lawyers are being drawn into this area of legal practice.

But even more interesting and instructive is where all the big divorce money for the lawyers is coming from?

Yep, you guessed right, its’ from our pockets, yours and mine. Basically any cash paid to a lawyer, even by your ex-husband depletes the family finances and assets that may have to be sold to settle legal fees. Money that should have otherwise gone to divorced women to help them rebuild their lives with some decent finances after the devastation that usually comes with divorce. Make no mistake about it; lawyers love nasty divorce settlement cases. The nastier they are, the better for them. Lawyers are usually the only true winners in any divorce action.

When they are not helping your ex-husband to hide or understate assets, they will be busy ensuring that by the time the divorce is finally settled, most of the family assets and cash will have gone to paying for their services, sometimes leaving little or nothing for you and your children to rebuild your lives with.

Yet it does not need to be like that. You definitely deserve better. Fortunately, many women are fighting back these days and with lots of success too. It is amazing how much of a difference, taking a few simple precautions can make. Generally these important steps to secure your future have to be taken long before there is any talk of a divorce. Just the way folks take out insurance for a rainy day. You’re still happy if you never need to claim on your insurance, but it helps you sleep better at night and gives you peace of mind because you know that if the rainy day, or disaster comes, you are fully prepared.

It really is a jungle out there and many women have realized that it is not a good idea to place your whole financial future in the hands of someone else other than yourself.

I hope you enjoyed that article. It was written by my good friend Cathi Adams.

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How To Become Happily Divorced

Divorce Doctor — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000

Do you cringe when you hear the word divorce? “Divorce” conjures up thoughts of sorrow and unhappiness. When you say you are divorced the response is, “Oh, I’m sorry”. You hear condolences for the “death” of your marriage. Next question is, “Are you dating?” Then if you say no they always ask, “Why not?”.

Many people think you can’t possibly be happy if you are alone. Loneliness is a choice. I am often alone but I am rarely lonely. Many of my clients say that they felt much lonelier when they were in a bad marriage then when they divorced. You can choose to make lemonade out of lemons.

Overcome your post-divorce loneliness and handle insensitive comments. Follow these simple tips:

1. Don’t tell people you are divorced (with a sorrowful look in your eyes). Smile confidently and say, ” I am Happily Divorced!”

2. Feel strong, independent and happy! Soon your brain will catch on and you will feel it and believe it.

3. Remember all the things you used to love to do?Start doing them again! Pull out that old needlepoint. Start painting again. Take up photography. Volunteer for a cause you are passionate about. Read that murder mystery you have been saving.

4. Begin a hobby you have always wanted to do.

5. Pamper yourself. Take hours getting ready to go out (Enjoy the fact that there is no one there telling you to hurry up and finish)

6. Make an appointment at 4:00 in the afternoon consider yourself lucky you don’t have to “rush” home to make dinner. Be happy your time is your own now to do as you wish!

7. Spend REAL time with your children. Sit on the floor with them. Play a board game. Listen to their laughter. Let their smile fill you. Embrace the fact that you have “time to smell the roses”. Enjoy these small wonders.

8. Put your favorite singer on the stereo and dance around the house singing (close the blinds first)

A positive mental attitude will do wonders to overcome hurdles you will face in your new life. Remember divorce is not the end of THE world – just the end of THAT world. Hold your head high and keep moving forward in your new life being “Happily Divorced”.